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Did you know dogs can smell hypoglycemia and be trained to warn their owners its time for a snack. That cats can love too much. That dogs can learn an average of 150 words, some up to 250 words. Cats kiss with their eyes.
Secondhand smoke increases the risk of at least 2 fatal cancers in cats. Dogs with long noses may develop cancerous nasal tumors from living with a smoker and short nosed breeds are more prone to lung cancer. (If you smoke I can help you quit in one to two sessions.)
After years of being on guard, keeping your distance, monitoring the threat of the unseen viral enemy and privileging life lived in secure surroundings, now this!
Your friends and colleagues are thrilled at the prospect of being sky high again. Not you.
For all the disruptions blown in with the demands of Covid 19 threats, the anxiety, uncertainty, living remotely, the need to fly was blissfully not an issue. Now it is, again.
After years of being safely grounded, a few shots and you’re good to go – takeoff looms…. Instead of being thrilled, you’re drenched in sweat – that all too familiar dread and apprehension, OMG, I’ve got to fly!
Some Coping Tips:
Step back into the present with a few long, slow quieting breaths, breathing out longer than you breathe in. Count each in and out breath.
Focus on what you can control rather than what you fear.
The positive reasons / opportunities for your trip
What you hope to accomplish, experience, whom you will meet, etc.
Select your preferred seat early on, as well as your special meal
Download: comedy shows, musicals, music, or documentaries that engage you.
Speak to the pilot or the head flight attendant for reassurance.
Remember, change, particularly unexpected and unpredictable change, predictably generate uncertainty. These Covid 19 months upended your life in countless ways. You coped and learned to cope differently and with flexibility.
You are a more resilient and resourceful person than you were pre-Covid. Remember this.
A few weeks before your flight, download the WakingUp.com app by Sam Harris (there is a 30 day free trial). Each 10 minute mindfulness segment will guide you, over 28 days, to a deep appreciation of how your mind works. It is remarkable and invaluable.
Consider booking in for a session or two with me.
I can teach you how to cope effectively using hypnosis, self-hypnosis, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) which are excellent tools for resolving fears and generating beneficial change.
You’ll be flying in plane comfort in no time.
Dr Melanie Bryan Short Term-Therapy & Hypnosis w/ Long-term Results
Much has been written about the discomfort of uncertainty accompanied by its worry, stress and anxiety and it’s effects on so many areas of our lives.
For most of us worldwide our lives feel like we are stuck on pause, waiting to return to the illusion of the predictable and the freedom to move about and make plans.
It can feel like we are in quarantine, even if not officially, with challenges at every turn personally and relation-ally. Being alone together is stressful. Navigating the bumpy terrain of closeness and distance, needs and expectations, can be a strain. All the more so with children at home demanding engagement plus space constraints. Add the demands of working at home, social isolation and the ever present fear of a viral infection can exhaust our personal strengths.
Feeling emotionally overwhelmed, tempers are likely to flare easily, it’s consequences lingering, often painfully. Focusing on fearful thoughts can interfere with our ability to relax into the present moment and enjoy even the simple pleasure of a cup of coffee.
With so much uncertainty coping effectively can plummet, with little sense of control and no end in sight.
Although it may have felt that way, your future, through today, was never as predictable as you may have assumed. Instead it is the product of complex causes and conditions, and the often unrecognized power of serendipity – “the potential for random and unexpected events to wreck even the best laid plans.”
The one place uncertainty does not exist is in the present moment. Step into it. Scan your body for sources of stress and pain. Breath slowly into each such area and simply recognize and allow each experience of discomfort to communicate its needs to you. The body keeps the score. Maintain a curious, open mind as you do this exercise, “that’s interesting”. Lying on your back while propping your feet up against the wall for 5 min. as you do this is particularly calming.
Flexibility is a key here. Flexibility can aid in cushioning the impact of the unexpected by expecting the unexpected as much as possible, controlling what you can while appreciating all can continue to change rapidly. That is the value of having plans B, C & D. Just in case plan A gets sideswiped by the unexpected.
Reflect back on this time when so many of your cherished freedoms were curtailed by the virus. Reflect back on how you used your time during the lockup?
Do you feel a sense of satisfaction that you used your free time well, or did you while away the hours watching Netflix and reading far too much news?
There is a difference between being busy and being productive. A sense of accomplishment accompanies being productive, and it pays dividends going forward.
If you felt some regret when you looked back, then consider how to focus some of your current time now in ways that honor your interests and abilities and give you a sense of accomplishment when you reflect back from your future now to today.
In the midst of so many physical, financial and psychological threats, give yourself the gift of presents of mind, focus on what you can change, and deeply enjoy your coffee.
Your partner is late – again. You begin to fume, assuming s/he didn’t consider you enough to call or text.
Your work colleague didn’t inform you about an important meeting – again. S/he is trying to sabotage you, it’s obvious.
Taking things personally: rapidly interpreting another person’s words or actions as negative comments about you without considering other potential explanations. This damages your self-esteem, pummels self-confidence and too often renders us feeling angry, guilty or defensive.
It’s not about you.
Once you accept your vulnerability to over-personalize and consider other explanations for another’s words or actions, you step out of your victim mentality and create choice for yourself. Really, taking ownership of these rapid reactions, appreciating they are not about you, is truly freeing. Now you have choice in how to address the issue.
What are your triggers, what presses your buttons?
Triggers are reactivation’s of old emotional wounds or frustrations that still sting. A host of similarities to the original experiences such as a comment, body language, voice tone or look can trigger an over-reaction similar to the source experiences. These reactions are unique to each individual but are invariably disproportionate to a current given comment or behavior.
Other triggers develop via repeated frustrations with someone such as their being chronically late.
Becoming attuned to your triggers: “The body keeps the score”
An emotional red flag may be a sudden, rapid heartbeat or quickened breath, your chest or stomach may tighten, or your jaws may clench. Any of these reactions are important signals. Noticing them rather than reacting out of them gives you the opportunity to grasp the messages fueling these feelings.
To quickly step back from the trigger and step into the present moment, take a few deep, slow breaths, hold each a few seconds, then exhale slowly and name the feeling. This brief exercise allows you to step into the present moment, consider possible alternative explanations and take proactive or protective action.
Expressing your needs calmly and assertively will have you feeling more empowered and comfortable within yourself than taking things personally ever can.
One approach (among many) to both therapy and coaching I tend to employ, engages the client (or clients, in the case of a couple or family), in searching for exceptions to the presenting complaints and out of this investigation, constructing solutions, rather than honing in on the problem itself. This means expanding the clients framework to include descriptions of when things are already happening satisfactorily in the area of distress that the clients want to continue to have happen.
Within this framework, I search for something worthwhile that is happening, explore these worthwhile interactions, be they attitude shifts, behaviours etc. and encourage the client to continue doing more of these in lieu of their problematic reactions.
Promoting awareness of exceptions to these problematic behaviours or interactions and encouraging consideration of the differences between the situations when the problem occurs and the situations in which exceptions to the problem occurs, helps to shift the client’s attention towards their current abilities, towards potential solutions and towards amplifying more of what works. A greater sense of self-appreciation of one’s capabilities for change and growth naturally follows from such a line of thinking.
Solution-talk can be present-focused: “What are you doing now that is effective in dealing with or over-coming ‘x’? (Anxiety, fears, relationship conflicts, compulsions, etc.). “How do you do that? When?” “What do you think this tells me about you?” “This ability to do something different, is this new or have you always had it?”
Solution-talk can also be future-focused: How will you know when this problem is solved? What will you be doing differently? “Are you doing any of that now?” “How will other people you are close to know things are different without your having to tell them?”. Such questions shift the client’s attention toward generating and sustaining differences that make a difference in resolving their presenting complaints.
Solution-talk can elicit resources from the past that can be incorporated in the present to improve a client’s self-image or functioning: “At what time in your life would you have been most confident that you could have accomplished this?” “What experience was most important in supporting that belief in yourself?” “What does that time in your life tell you about yourself and your potential now?”
Solution-talk leads to a picture of life after successful (and often brief) therapy which can guide both therapist and client toward positive change patterns in the client’s life.
*Developed by Steve de Shazer, Brief Family Therapy Centre, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA
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